It is an irrevocable commitment to marry a person of the father’s choosing.Prior to the betrothal, the couple should have no feelings for each other. It is during the betrothal period that the couple are allowed to actually fall in love.When researching for my book I was dismayed to come accross many horror stories from people who are being burnt by the betrothal system.Many young men who have sought to marry a girl have submitted to the betrothal system, only to fail in the end at passing through the tricky betrothal obstacle course.Perhaps no history on the surface of the earth is more remarkable than that of the Jews.They can trace their ancestry back to bands of wandering herders, with names like Abraham, Sarah, Isaac, and Rebecca.
During the years when radical abolitionists distanced themselves from what they saw as corrupt institutions and embraced moral suasion as the means to the transformation of a society that derived wealth from the exploitation of the poor and the enslaved, some evangelical women capitalized on that sense of women's moral superiority and solidarity to bring forward proposals for a sweeping transformation of the social order through direct confrontation of the immorality of men of all classes, including their own.
They first emerge as a people separate from the other peoples of the Mediterranean world as a result of Moses and His teachings, which sharply distinguished them from their polytheistic neighbors.
They conquered a land—Israel—and established a great empire, then declined in power and were vanquished.
In the 1850s, as they recognized not only the risks to their own reputations engendered by strict adherence to moral suasion, but also its practical limitations as a strategy for social change, they developed a renewed interest in party politics as a means of access to state power.
After the Civil War, with the expansion of the state's involvement in charitable and social-welfare endeavors, the conflation of women's difference and morality served the much narrower interests of the newly dominant white middle class.